Loving each other to wholeness.

Low self-esteem can be one of our worst enemies. I wonder why it’s so hard for us to truly love ourselves the way we should. Some either take it to the extreme and love themselves too much to the point of arrogance or some hide behind their smiles, designer clothes or relationships.

I can admit I’m one of those people that’s struggled with loving myself since my childhood. I could find all sorts of things wrong with me without a person even telling me. What makes it worse is having people tell you all the bad things about yourself. I’ve wondered how people have dealt with it in their own lives. The sad part for me is I know many people have lost their lives due to self-destruction over wanting to be accepted. We live in a world that is so fixated on popularity, self-centeredness & outward appearances that we overlook the true nature of individuals. The world is full of bullies to the point social media has now become cyber bullying. You can even find bullies in the workplace and churches where it used to just be in schools.

I read a story back in 2016 about a 13 year old boy from Staten, NY that took his own life due to being bullied at school. It broke my heart because he went to the school administrators for help and in return they did nothing. His voice wasn’t heard. Can you imagine if we start taking time out to listen to one another’s voice instead of ignoring or judging how far we might go? How we could help each other heal within? I’ve read countless stories of young people that have taken their own life due to being bullied. This is preventable.

I too was bullied as a kid. I was bullied as an adult. I’m not ashamed to admit my parents almost had to bury me twice. I tried to take my own life at 17 and again at 19 but God spared my life for a reason. I think about all of those children that have lost their lives behind feeling as though they did not have a voice. We must stop doing what’s popular and start doing what’s right and begin loving each other to wholeness.

This blog is for all of those who have ever been bullied. As a child or as an adult. I don’t care who you are. Whether you are black, white, yellow, purple, gay, straight, etc. You are somebody!! You do have a voice!! You are loved!! And most of all God loves you and so do I!!


Holding on instead of letting go.

Why do we hold on to people pass their expiration date of being a part of our lives? Why is it that once we know it’s time to move on and that season has served its purpose we still hold on pass the expiration date?  Think about it for a second. They place expiration dates on food for a reason.  If you read closely it says, “Best if used by 04/12/18”. After that date, the food is not as fresh and can become stale or even mold. Think about that relationship you’re holding on to. Has it reached its expiration date? Has it become stale or even molded?  Is God telling you it’s time to move on because that relationship is holding you back from accomplishing what you need to do in your next season?

Sometimes people hold on to us as a crutch and likewise we can do the same.  We must make room for the people that are next in line that’s destined to push us to our next. Whatever your next is.  Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in a cycle with people that are only meant to be in your life for a certain amount of time.  It doesn’t mean you don’t love or care for them or that you are better than anyone else.  It just means the relationship served its God given purpose. You will know when that “Best if used by” date is approaching or has since expired. You will know when the relationship is stale or has developed mold.  Tap into that Voice Within and seek out those relationships that have expiration dates approaching or has since passed.  It’s time for all of us to re-evaluate our pantries.  Now don’t get me wrong, there’s some relationships that will not come with an expiration date but you will definitely know which ones they are.

Don’t you think it’s time to stop holding on and let go in order to be free?